My name is Ashley, I'm 21 years old, and I had a hysterectomy in December for endometriosis and chronic pain, after years of surgeries and medical and alternative treatments.
I'll admit it. I started this community for purely selfish reasons.
I get really frustrated when I see people who shouldn't have children, yet they have them anyway. Why is it that every unfit-to-be-a-parent person in the whole world pops them out by the dozen? My neighbor has two kids, and her sister, who lives on the other side of her, has two kids too, and they're both terrible moms.
A few days ago, all four kids were in my neighbor's yard. The oldest of the kids, who is five, was telling the younger ones that if they didn't stay in the backyard, the police would come and arrest them, and take them to jail, where they'd get picked up by (*gasp of horror*) THE FOSTER PARENTS. And then the foster parents would take them away and lock them in a room and beat them. And then they all decided to play "cops and foster parents" (whatever happened to cops and robbers?), and they ran around hitting each other.
My twenty three year old cousin and her nineteen year old boyfriend, both cocaine addicts, are expecting in November.
My eighteen year old former roommate and her twenty year old boyfriend, who both came crying to me about how they needed an abortion because they "forgot" to use birth control (but chose not to have one, though they still don't really "feel ready to have a baby"), are expecting in July.
How come people like that can have kids, but I won't be able to? I'm not ready now, by any means, but someday, yeah, it'd be nice. Still, I'll have to go through a crazy screening process, and pay lots of money, so that I can adopt a child.